How to walk alongside sexual assault victims when you’ve been a victim yourself
The scandal of Harvey Weinstein and the festering wounds left along his destructive path of sexual exploits made America face a fact: every day we interact with women who have suffered the horror of sexual assault. As #metoo flooded social media channels, multitudes of women felt the tide of suppressed emotion wash over their lives. In this world where every 98 seconds another person is sexually assaulted, we must grapple with the fact that many, many women have “me too” stories. And, we must recognize that many women leading in the church have experienced sexual harassment or assault themselves—maybe even within the church. The local church is one of my greatest loves, and I am not jaded, but we must be realistic. As much as I’d like to say the church is a safe place, untouched by the fallen desires of predatory humans—I’ve been in ministry too long to entertain such a foolish notion.
As female leaders, we must be ready to minister when we hear the cry for help, which means that many of us will counsel women who have been accosted, while still processing the emotions about our own “me too” moments. I am one of those women. As “me too” leaders venture into this redeeming work, here are some pitfalls we need God’s wisdom to avoid:
1. Confusing your story with hers.
When I talk about the assault and abuse I’ve experienced, I am standing on holy ground because this is the place Jesus met me. He had called out in mercy long before, but it wasn’t until I experienced assault that I finally turned to the only man who could save me—Jesus. But this isn’t how every woman deals with her experience, and we can’t project our own stories onto ...
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